We always said we would have no kids or two. At my 6 week check up I told the midwife I would be back soon! I had a good pregnancy and delivery and wanted to have another baby in close proximity to our first born -largely due to my age I didn't want to wait.
That was before colic.
That was before she wouldn't take a bottle.
That was before a LEEP procedure.
That was before Finley made strange with everyone but me.
That was before Finley cried for an hour solid in her car seat several hundred times.
That was when I still thought I'd have time to garden, write, develop new TV projects all while the baby slept. Hardy Har Har.
That was before we decided to sell our house and move onto our sailboat.
That was when I was still wearing my birthing afterglow. By three months in, our darling baby had secured herself as an only child in my mind and I had become quite okay with this idea. In fact I'm still okay with this idea. I think. I know plenty of only children who are well adjusted, good people.
We can adopt my hubs said. Which is something I always wanted to do, but, we make cute babies so maybe we can do it just once more. Hmmmm. I'll think about it.
Can we compare our kids and pets for a second? Hubs made this argument the other day. Look at our dog he's high maintenance and suffers extreme separation anxiety with him we learned our lesson. We should have gotten two dogs to keep each other company. After ten years we can't add another dog to our home- our dog is too old to accept another dog and he is too set in his ways. Will this be the problem with only one child? Steve and his sisters get along great, my sister and I are besties, should we deny our child the chance to have a sibling?
But what if?
What if we have twins this time? Multiples are more common in older mothers.
What if our second baby is not healthy?
What if I'm too old and too tired to give my kids the kind of mother I want to give them?
What if we can't follow our dream of getting on a sailboat and sailing around the globe?
The first child changed our lifestyle, we're already broken of the old single person wild child ways. It's replaced with a new lifestyle - is it better - no - it's equally good but different. One child is portable. Two is more complicated for sure, but, only for a couple of years...right? Once they are walking and talking it's good -no? I love my new family. I'm adaptable, kids like me and I like kids and it is different when they are your own. I do want to continue with a career and I want to be able to do so without compromise to the family. Is two too much to take on?
Opening up the comments line: Let me know your thoughts!