Tuesday, October 13, 2009

Momfidence! A Talk with Author & Blogger Paula Spencer

Paula Spencer

Paula Spencer is a MOTHER, published author, blogger, magazine columnist and above all the world's biggest cheerleader for sensible parenting! She is coming to speak to moms of all ages at the historic Turnage Theatre in Washington, NC, Sunday October 18, 2009 at 2PM. I have the pleasure of introducing Paula to our community of mom's here in Eastern NC!

She will be reading an excerpt from her book Momfidence and talk a bit about why she wrote it. She will also be talking about how commonsense parenting has made a natural segue for her into commonsense reverse parenting, the taking care of aging parents (and what the two have in common). But it won't be an eldercare talk; she will stick to parenting mostly, and be very glad to do Q&A time!

Paula Spencer can also be found writing here:
* Woman's Day Magazine "Momfidence" column
* 3 times a week Q&A blog on The Daily WD
* a senior editor at Caring.com
* Debuting this month! Paula is the new "Suburban Farmgirl" blogger for Mary Jane's Farm, which is a website/magazine on organic living run by the Martha Stewart of farm chic.

Tickets can be purchased at The Brown Library in Washington NC or at the door at the Turnage Theatre.

Saturday, October 10, 2009

Happy HALF Birthday BABY P!

iPhone pic taken today in New Bern on the waterfront.
The 2 big loves of my life: Miss Fin and her beautiful daddy.

Our Finley is 6 months old & Steve and I met on this day 10 years ago.
We are also wishing Jen & Matt a happy 5th wedding anniversary.
It's quite a big day!

Thursday, October 8, 2009

So What Is There To Do in Winnipeg?

On a glorious day in late September we went to AMaze in Corn.

I have to start this post by stating a "SHIPLEY'S Believe It Or Not" FACT. All 4 kids FELL ASLEEP in their car seats in the van on the way to Amaze in Corn. SERIOUSLY! Jen said no one will believe us - we should have taken a video. It was the ONLY silent ride we had inside a week of outings in the van!

Amaze in Corn was really great. The kids had plenty of space to run around. Nothing was off limits, there were plenty of bathrooms and hand washing stations and the stroller moved about with ease over the paths. We didn't actually go through the corn maze as a weather shift had us hiding out in the mini van eating lunch and thawing out. However, before the rain we did manage to take in a hay ride and the kids enjoyed the petting farm. Kaylee, 3 years old, climbed right into a pen filled with kittens and was in her happy place. Bastian, at two, was all about running around climbing hay stacks, kicking up gravel and both kids were in and out of pens feeding alfalfa to the goats and horses, bunnies, sheep, and ducks. Bastian even had a conversation with a turkey!

One look at this sky had us referencing the Wizard of Oz.
The wind kicked up and I was certain I might have to click my heels to get home!

We took in a hay ride before the sky turned black!

My sister in law Jen & I & the 4 kids. Fin is just off camera. Woops!


I ventured out for a walk most days I was in Winnipeg. It was crisp and cool. Finley got to wear socks and shoes a hat and mittens for the first time. We wandered over to Indigo and found we were right on time for the DAILY story time in the kids books section. We enjoyed the FREE (ha-ha not so much. I bought two books; The Paper Bag Princess and Olivia while there) half-hour of entertainment. I liked listening to the stories and Finley liked watching all the little kids. I picked up a Starbucks to keep me warm on our walk home while Finley slept all snug as a bug in the Ergo carrier.

Finley 5.5 months entertaining her baby cousin Zoey 3.5 months.

We also visited the Humane Society to look at the cat apartments and all the dogs. It was an awesome brand new facility that seems to have been built to accommodate just about everything and everyone! There was a birthday party going on in one of the rooms, a cafe, and a little gift store benefiting the humane society. Kaylee left there with a tube of plastic cats to share with her brother. This little excursion was free but a donation would be recommended!

Everyone was asking me; "What is there to do in Winnipeg?" A lot actually! These are just a few of the things we did as a family. We have also gone to the Winnipeg Zoo and had a blast and the local craft fairs are fun - although not somewhere you would want to take the kids! There are plenty of options you just have to plan ahead and dress accordingly!


Tuesday, October 6, 2009

Flying Infants

"When you are pregnant and boarding a plane every one around you is interested in you, asking when the baby is due. When you are boarding a plane with your baby everyone ignores you, hoping they are not seated beside you."
Amy Poehler

Finley and I have been flying. In fact we have done 8 flights in the last 3 weeks! Fin & I flew to Ottawa over Labour day weekend - then we flew to meet Steve at the airport in Toronto to renew our Visas then the three of us flew home to NC. Two weeks later we boarded a plane to Winnipeg Manitoba to visit Steve's sister.

To say I was apprehensive to fly for the first time with Finley would be a lie. I love to travel and so does Steve. We figure our child will just have to get used to traveling and will become a good one at that. Air travel has never bothered me. I am of the set who feels I am safer in an airplane than on the road in my car. I don't love the stale air and the proximity of strangers in my space, but, I can get over that pretty quickly when I really think about where I am going and who I will be visiting, or working with, once I land at my destination.

I was not expecting the feelings that overcame me as I was about to step with Fin onto our first airplane. All of a sudden I became a little verklempt - I looked up at the blue sky the sky - swallowed a lump in my throat - told Steve we loved him and boarded the plane. Finley was a champ and slept through most of the flight! The stewardess said Finley was well behaved. She actually said she can tell by the demeanor of the parents if the children will be okay in the air. I took the complement. This was the only time I was nervous getting on a plane - I guess I masked that feeling pretty well. It's amazing how a child can make you so much more aware of your mortality. Of course, with this flight under our belt we flew without incident on the remaining flights.

This is Chicago O'Hare - Pretty nice hunh?

My lunch of champions. Eli's Famous Chicago cheesecake & Starbucks.
(I did eat a breakfast bagel after the desert!)

Check out this change station!
It had a garbage and paper towel dispenser in reach too. Swanky!

Ahhh, my favorite - the COVERED toilet seat!

I still NEVER sit on the seat - practicing powerful pose has kept me strong in the skill of hovering even while wearing the kid! I do share my cousin Jen's annoyance with the automatic flush toilets. I appreciate not walking into dirty toilet stall but does it have to flush randomly? One flush when I'm done my business is enough!

Finley & I at the airport. Yup, we were both as tired as we look!

I'm wearing the back pack -it's our carry on/diaper bag/laptop tote. It balances the weight of Finley on the front and keeps my hands free to handle the Starbucks! By the end of a travel day carrying an additional 35 pounds in kid and gear I am really ready for bed!

Finley 5 months old and her Daddy in the air.

I bought this car seat bag. It wheels and is a back pack. I asked at the counter if my flights were full. They were, so, I checked the car seat. Had there been a seat available I would have brought the seat to install on the plane for the wee lass to sit in. You can also gate check strollers and car seats. Since I was flying alone it was just easier not to lug the seat through the airport. The bag got beat up but is still usable. At least the seat is intact! It was easy to wheel from the car to the airport along with my wheelie suitcase.

I was also able to wear Finley in the Ergo carrier through the metal detectors. It does not set the sensors off and is super comfortable to wear for long periods of time. It has a big front pocket where I kept our tickets, passports and my wallet. Such a great carrier!

We had lots of people offer to help us along the way which was so nice! It restored my faith in the generosity of people.

Next flight will be with Finley at 10 months old -uhoh - it will be whole new ball of wax with a wiggly, talkative baby! Steve will be with us for that flight to help out and I may be flagging the bar cart just to get through it! Kidding - kinda.

Sunday, October 4, 2009

I Now Pronounce You

So last week I blogged about how I refer to myself as Momma in the 3rd person because I have not married "the ME and The Momma" yet. Well, last night Fin puked snot on me and I was not grossed out at all. I just felt so sorry for my sick little baby. In sickness and in health the two became one. Today I'm Momma in the FIRST.

Thursday, October 1, 2009

A BED Time Conversation with A 3.5 Year Old.

The other night my sister in law put my niece to bed and then went out to an engagement. I stayed home to watch the kids. I learned just what a child will say to stay up just a little bit later.

Our conversation went like this:

K:
Auntie

Me:
Yes, K.

K:
You didn't kiss me good night.

M:
Yes I did. Do you require another kiss?

K:
Yes

A big sloppy kiss is given and a few are tossed though the air for K to catch.

Me:
Goodnight K- it's time to sleep.

K:
Are you a boy or a girl? (giggles)

Me:
I am a girl.

K:
Do you have a penis?

Me:
No I don't have a penis. I'm a girl.

K:
Is your baby a boy or a girl?

Me:
A girl

K:
So she has a gina.

Me:
Yes, K that's what girls have. We can talk about this tomorrow it's time to go to sleep.

About 2 minutes of silence goes by.

K:
Auntie.
Aaauntie.
AUNTIE! I HAVE TO POO!

Me:
Well get up and go to the toilet. You are a big girl. You can go by yourself.

The toileting is done and I tuck the child back into her bed, but, not before she has negotiated having me sit on her bed and rock her while I sing rock a bye baby. ONCE. Although she tried to get me to do it again. Then she pulled out the fake crying. I check on her and see she is sitting upright in her bed smirking while she fakes some more crying sounds. I elect to ignore her so she will go to sleep.

K:
Auntie my nose is running I need a Kleenex.

Me:
Your nose runs when you fake cry?

K:
Yes.

I bring her a Kleenex and she settles into bed. A few minutes later I begin to hear faint sniffles and then the sound of REAL crying is coming from her bedroom. I go up to check on her. She is crying REAL big crocodile tears.

Me:
What's wrong K?

K:
My Kleenex is broken.

I try not to laugh because this is very serious and she is very upset. She extends her hand to show me a Kleenex all shredded up. I go get her a new one in trade for the broken one.

Quiet for about 10 minutes.
The phone rings it's my husband calling.

K:
Auntie who is on the phone?

Me:
Uncle Steve - he says good night now go to sleep.

K:
Auntie! I want to talk to Uncle Steve.

Me:
Good night K.

K:
I want to tell him about my poo.

And that's how a three and a half year old managed to stay up an additional 45 minutes after she was put to bed.

The End